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Saturday, May 19, 2012

Being a Mother Tip #6 - Increase quality time with yourchild.


I recommend that you start tomake special opportunities to be with your child by learning the 10-20-10strategy on a regular basis. Here’s aformula to follow. You spend 10 minutesin the morning, 20 minutes in the afternoon, and 10 minutes in the evening withyour child. These are specialopportunities to be with your child. These opportunities are to just listen without judging, blaming, orshaming. Validate whatever your child issaying and feeling. Validation does notmean you agree with their opinion. Validation means that you are listening to your child. By doing this families can begin to repair theirbroken relationship. Repairing yourrelationship with your child helps you influence your child to start makingmore responsible decisions and demonstrating respect.




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Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Being a Mother Tip #5 - Reverse negative neurological feedback loops.

     
You can reverse negative feedback loops by interrupting your child’s stress cycle.  This will help you connect with your child. Begin by exploring what is contributing to the negative neurological feedback loops within the family.  You need to identify your negative reactions to your child’s behavior.  Begin to understand what in your past triggers this negative reaction.  Understanding this is critical in developing secure attachments with children.  You need to have an understanding of your own childhood attachments.  Your own history of attachments and relationships is the blueprint you follow.  Until this blueprint is changed you will continue to perpetuate negative neurological feedback loops within the family. 

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