More often than not, the 'traditional home' of mom, dad, two children, and a white picket fence doesn’t exist. Many of us are single parents, struggling to do the best we can for our children. And we often fall short because we alone are breadwinner, cook, housekeeper, gardener, chauffeur, referee, teacher, and coach.
Because they are so stressed out, single parents often blame others for their own circumstances.
Blame originated in the garden. Adam blamed Eve. Eve blamed the snake. I suppose if we could interview the snake, he would blame someone or something else.
Blame comes from Satan. He is a liar, John 8:44 “ . . . not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”
The lie in blame is that it takes us away from our personal responsibility in any situation. It’s a waste of time and energy.
We are called to be like Christ in all that we do. Our responsibility in parenting is to be in a state of love. From a state of love, we can work towards being better parents and move away from the blaming and judging.
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