Being a father can be very trying, but it can also be one of the most fulfilling jobs you will ever have.
You must understand that challenges bring with them great opportunities for healing and reconnection. You have the ability to interrupt your children’s stress cycles, and become emotionally safe for your children.
Remember to breathe in and get past your own fear. When you respond in love you send positive energy to the places that need healing. Emotional regulation through love promotes healing, and you can help your children become refreshed at the cellular level.
Your part in the healing process is to bring love, grace, and forgiveness into your children’s lives. By allowing love, grace, and forgiveness to flow through you, you help create an environment that is conducive to healing. You are not responsible for healing, but you are responsible for helping others on their journey to heal.
Complex and hard to do? Yes.
Perfect love and forgiveness comes only from Jesus through our relationship with him. Therefore, you must work to get yourself into that place of love and forgiveness, so that can help others.
"It will be a healing for your flesh and refreshment for your body." Proverbs 3:8
Ken Thom, MS, LPC is a nationally recognized Christian counselor and writer. He is available for parent and individual coaching. Ken is a Post Institute Certified Family Regulatory Therapist, Certified Coach and Great Behavior Breakdown Instructor as well as a certified BCI parent trainer. Ken's book Christian Parent Wisdom is a daily scripture based medication book for parenting children with challenging behaviors. Contact Ken.