Wednesday, October 12, 2011
The school year is underway. Hopefully, students and teachers have settled into their new environments. Unfortunately, this is not true for everyone. I know this from my on going consultations with schools and teachers. Unless a teacher is well versed in the stress model, it is easy for them to slide back into their old paradigm. Learning to use a new strategy takes time. Stress causes some of this regression. I try to keep the focus on keeping it simple. It is too easy for behavior to become the focus. Remember, negative behaviors are a symptom of dys-regulation. Children need adults to help them become regulated. Too many times a child is allowed to become dys-regulated too long and a melt down occurs. Then it takes a lot of time and energy for regulation to take place. Keeping it simple also includes being aware of symptoms of dys-regulation before it becomes out of control of the child. It’s no different that maintenance of a car. I don’t think any one of us would wait to change the oil when we start to hear metal grinding. I believe that maintenance in relationship with a child will reduce dys-regulation and meltdowns. The time invested up-front is always much less that the time it takes to pick up all the emotional pieces. Oxytocin is essential in the regulation process. Teachers can learn to generate oxytocin in their classroom. Find out the importance of oxytocin, go to http://www.fastcompany.com/1784836/paul-zak-guggenheim-lab . Deep breathing, relaxation, and meditation are natural ways to stimulate your oxytocin. Are you having difficulty learning to relax and clear your mind. To help you and your child with this , I have just released a set of six relaxation CDs designed to help you and your child learn to relax Each CD focuses on a specific behavior that your child may be a challenge. So in addition to learning to relax, you and your child will learn a new skill to reduce a specific behavior. I am offering a FREE relaxation CD of your choice when you subscribe to either my free Love in Action Newsletter or free weekly Christian Parent Wisdom. Go to http://bit.ly/pBDTqY to take advantage of this offer.