It is important to remember that a child who has a small window of tolerance can be overwhelmed by positive stimulation. Do not punish the meltdown, but rather take responsibility for not providing enough emotional safety for your child. You can use this opportunity to connect and expand your child’s window of tolerance. It is imperative that you remain emotionally safe and steadfast for your child in all circumstances. When fear and dys-regulation disrupts order and harmony, you need to affirm that all is well, and clear yourself of all concerns. You are able to remain steadfast because you know that God is in control. Psalm 108:1 says, “My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast.”
Ken Thom, MS, LPC is a nationally recognized Christian counselor and writer. He is available for parent and individual coaching. Ken is a Post Institute Certified Family Regulatory Therapist, Certified Coach and Great Behavior Breakdown Instructor as well as a certified BCI parent trainer. Ken's book Christian Parent Wisdom is a daily scripture based medication book for parenting children with challenging behaviors. Contact Ken.