Take care of yourself.
Focus on transforming yourself into the parent God wants you to be. As a parent, you have to feel good enough about yourself to be emotionally available to your child. Your window of tolerance needs to be able to handle any emotion their child brings to them. You need to be a secure attachment figure for your child. God calls us to be in a state of love for our children. You are the best and most likely agent of change for your child. To do this you must be in the process of resolving your own issues. I believe this calls for a heart change.
Read January 2011 Love in Action Newsletter “Being Transformed” for additional support.