Stress Model

All behaviors arise from a state of stress. In between the behavior and the stress is the presence of a primary emotion. It is through the expression, processing, and the understanding of that emotion that we can calm the stress and diminish the behavior. Bryan Post - Great Behavior Breakdown. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Tolerate Crying as a Need for Empathy

Many times crying becomes intolerable to parents. This probably due to them not being allowed to cry or if raised by the Dr. Spock philosophy allowed to cry without being consoled. Crying is a communication that a child has reached a pint far outside his window of tolerance. It’s an indication of being swept away by a swift current and having nothing to hold onto. Change your paradigm from crying being weak to crying being a call for help from a very scared child. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Don't Make Anger Your Focus

Anger is usually the most focused on feeling. This tells us that we are fearful in nature. We are scanning our environment for anger because it is threatening and causes threatening behaviors. If we look for anger we are going to find it. Change your paradigm to look for fear in your children. See fear and you will see love and comfort as the answer. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Ignore the Behavior, Don't Ignore the Child

Behavior is a communication. Behavior may be the only way a child can express their fear and trauma. Shift your paradigm from behavior change based to being love based and emotionally safe based. That will regulate your child and he can then begin to put words to his fears. You will be creating a safe environment for healing. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Interrupt Trauma Reactions with Love

Trauma can be a long-lasting experience. It can affect individuals for their entire life. It sensitizes the neurological system towards stress and fear eventually leading to a conditioned state. This conditioning leads to a stress sensitive and fear-filled child. This chronic state of living in fear makes life very challenging because any stressor can trigger a traumatic reaction. This conditioned state can only be interrupted with love. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Parents Look Within to Trigger Oxytocin

It is critical for parents to be able to see the fear and stress within themselves. When parents can be a witness to their own stress, they have a greater ability to calm themselves. If fear or stress is present, they can take a few deep breaths become regulated. This turns on their oxytocin response. As the parent becomes calm they are able to handle their child’s fear and stress and then assist the child in triggering their oxytocin response. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

A Defiant Child is a Scared Child

Believing that anger is our natural reaction to a threat is a common miss-perception. The neurophysiological reaction to a perceived threat is fear. When cave men were confronted by wild animals they did not immediately go into fight or flight mode. First there was a freeze which gave his brain the opportunity to determine flight of flight. Consider this when dealing with a defiant child. Any attempt to force the child into action will quickly move the child from freeze to flight or flee. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.