A Defiant Child is a Scared Child

Believing that anger is our natural reaction to a threat is a common miss-perception. The neurophysiological reaction to a perceived threat is fear. When cave men were confronted by wild animals they did not immediately go into fight or flight mode. First there was a freeze which gave his brain the opportunity to determine flight of flight. Consider this when dealing with a defiant child. Any attempt to force the child into action will quickly move the child from freeze to flight or flee. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

State Level Reactions

Children with severe behaviors do not consciously choose to act out that behavior. These behaviors are driven from a highly unconscious place - their state level trauma memories. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.

Stress Model

All behaviors arise from a state of stress. In between the behavior and the stress is the presence of a primary emotion. It is through the expression, processing, and the understanding of that emotion that we can calm the stress and diminish the behavior. Bryan Post - Great Behavior Breakdown. My other articles and newsletters on fear are available to you as a free resource. My book, Christian Parent Wisdom is an excellent resource that combines stress model principles with scriptures in a daily meditation format. Buy Christian Parent Wisdom at http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive a FREE 30 minute consult with me when you mention that heard about this FREE offer though this Blog on your order.