Summer Challenge - Increased Manipulaiton

The world will tell you that negative behaviors are the way your child tries to manipulate and control you. And that you should punish those behaviors. Look past your child’s negative and challenging behaviors. Shift your paradigm and see these behaviors as your child’s communication for connection with you. Free yourself from all the shoulds of the world. This may be a challenge. Think about how God allows our negative behavior and waits for us to talk with Him. Christian Parent Wisdom #55 - Freedom Christ releases me from old patterns and the shame-based “shoulds” that surrounded me. I can now be all I was created to be and receive all He has for me. I am free to be in a loving relationship with my child. If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. John 8:36 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Withdrawal

Withdrawal is all about self-protection. It’s not about being lazy, selfish, or self centered. Summer time activities can easily become over whelming. This may put your child in a survival role. Withdrawal is a common form of self protection. It’s part of our natural fight or flight response to fear. Don’t let your child’s behavior cause you to feel captive and separate you from your child. Celebrate all channeling behaviors as an opportunity to connect with your child and help them progress developmentally. Christian Parent Wisdom #46 - Freedom My freedom in Christ allows me to make choices to improve my relationship with my child. I choose to have a peaceful and harmonious relationship. I choose to focus on God’s good in my child. As servants of God, live as free people. 1 Peter 2:16 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Back to School Tip #6: Responding Rather than Reacting*

Here's a couple of basic stress model principles to remember when you find yourself reacting rather than responding to your child. Remember that you are reacting from your unconscious. You are coming from a place of fear rather than love. This is fairly simple to overcome. First of all, slow down and think. Allow you to take several deep breaths and relax. You can then connect with your child and help him regulate. Even after you react, you can stop and create the space to respond. Continue to do your own work around your emotional trauma so when it gets triggered you can respond rather than react. *Adapted from 10 Important Back-to-School Tips for Parents and Teachers - Heather T. Forbes, LCSW If you find yourself needing additional support and encouragement to advocate for your child, contact me for a FREE 30 minute phone consult when you subscribe to my weekly Christian Parent Wisdom http://bit.ly/nmOEXw and mention that you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your subscription order. I offer more school strategies and resources in my July 2012 Love in Action Newsletter - Back to School Resources at http://bit.ly/nNyPn6

Summer Challenge - Sibling Rivalry

When siblings spend more time together there is usually an increase in sibling rivalry. This rivalry is their way of telling you they need more connection with you. It’s not about jealousy or envy. Let chicken represent available love. When there’s more mouths to feed at once, fear of starvation (emotional) sets in and each child feels afraid there won’t be enough chicken for them. Siblings then become a threat to each other. Take a deep breath and allow the Holy Spirit to help you cook up a little more chicken for the kids. Christian Parent Wisdom #28 - Abundant Life I celebrate life today with my child. We are refreshed through prayer. We are his creations and have a greater life and abundance through him. I came that they may have more life, and have it abundantly. John 10:10 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Meal Time

Summer challenge - meal time Increased physical and emotional activity causes dys-regulation of the brain’s appetite sensor. Even though your child “should” be hungry after a day’s activities, your child may not sense it or “feel” hungry until they are regulated. Help your child regulate before meals times. Use this as a time of emotional and spiritual connection. Pray with your child. Christian Parent Wisdom #35 - Prayer I model an attitude of gratitude for my child. Together, we give thanks in prayer for all we have and all we experience. Our lives become a prayer walk with God. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1Thessalonians 5:16–18 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Irresponsibility

Irresponsible behavior is a sign that your child is over whelmed, not lazy. You may need to make your child’s world a little smaller during the summer. Not enough structure leads to dys-regulation. Put order in your child’s life Christian Parent Wisdom #47 - Divine Order In the midst of dys-regulation, I look past any chaotic, present circumstances. I seek spiritual understanding, while God’s divine plan for my family unfolds. Order is then restored in my life and my relationship with my child. From now on, therefore, we regard no one from a human point of view; even though we once knew Christ from the human point of view, we know him no longer in that way. 2 Corinthians 5:16 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Socail Aggression

Remember that aggression is a sign of fear. Social situations can easily become over whelming for children with trauma histories. Look past the aggression and see your child as being afraid and let your heart lead you to connect in love. Christian Parent Wisdom #17 Love God’s love is there to comfort me in all circumstances. I chose to comfort my child in all circumstances. As I connect with my child, we find the peace within our hearts. Let your steadfast love become my comfort according to your promise to your servant. Psalm 119:76 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.