Summer Challenge - Meal Time

Summer challenge - meal time Increased physical and emotional activity causes dys-regulation of the brain’s appetite sensor. Even though your child “should” be hungry after a day’s activities, your child may not sense it or “feel” hungry until they are regulated. Help your child regulate before meals times. Use this as a time of emotional and spiritual connection. Pray with your child. Christian Parent Wisdom #35 - Prayer I model an attitude of gratitude for my child. Together, we give thanks in prayer for all we have and all we experience. Our lives become a prayer walk with God. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1Thessalonians 5:16–18 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Irresponsibility

Irresponsible behavior is a sign that your child is over whelmed, not lazy. You may need to make your child’s world a little smaller during the summer. Not enough structure leads to dys-regulation. Put order in your child’s life Christian Parent Wisdom #47 - Divine Order In the midst of dys-regulation, I look past any chaotic, present circumstances. I seek spiritual understanding, while God’s divine plan for my family unfolds. Order is then restored in my life and my relationship with my child. From now on, therefore, we regard no one from a human point of view; even though we once knew Christ from the human point of view, we know him no longer in that way. 2 Corinthians 5:16 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Socail Aggression

Remember that aggression is a sign of fear. Social situations can easily become over whelming for children with trauma histories. Look past the aggression and see your child as being afraid and let your heart lead you to connect in love. Christian Parent Wisdom #17 Love God’s love is there to comfort me in all circumstances. I chose to comfort my child in all circumstances. As I connect with my child, we find the peace within our hearts. Let your steadfast love become my comfort according to your promise to your servant. Psalm 119:76 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Melt Downs After a Good Time

Remember that positive stimulation can overwhelm a child who has a small window of tolerance. Don’t punish the melt down, take responsibly for not providing enough emotional safety for your child and use this opportunity to connect and expand your child window of tolerance. Be emotionally safe and steadfast for your child in all circumstances. Christian Parent Wisdom #15 Steadfast When fear and dys-regulation disrupts order and harmony, I affirm all is well. I clear my mind of all concerns. I remain steadfast knowing God is in control. My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast. Psalm 108:1 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Summer Challenge - Boredom

Boredom is not a lack of motivation. Your child is probably hypo-arouse or emotionally shut down. Connect with your child and develop a list of activities he or she is interested in. Be an encourager for your child. Christian Parent Wisdom #14 Encouragement I choose to use words that edify and encourage my child. Encouragement and compassion is an essential ingredient in providing a secure base for my child. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, as indeed you are doing. Thessalonians 5:11 Purchase Christian Parent Wisdom now @ http://bit.ly/mVZggY and receive 30 minutes of phone coaching or a 30 minute spiritual consult for FREE when you mention you heard about this FREE offer though this blog on your purchase order.

Being a Father - Tip #9

Understand the difference between punishment and discipline.

A child’s obedience is a function of the co-regulation between the parent and with the child. Co-regulation creates a secure base. A secure base influences obedience. A secure base creates positive neurological feedback loops and positive conditioning. Lack of co-regulation between parents causes children to react out of fear. So parents, if you’re dys-regulated, then don’t expect your children to be obedient. When you are dys-regulated, God doesn’t get upset with you. He doesn’t put you in time out. He is there for you regardless of your state of regulation. This is the model you need to follow with your children. Unfortunately there has been a blurring of definitions and lack of understanding of expectations. Punishment is used and is expected to get the results of discipline. Isn’t it more sociably acceptable to say that you’re “disciplining” your child rather than punishing him? I have found that most parents believe punishment and discipline are synonymous. Also, parents don’t truly understand what a natural consequence means.

Read more on punishment and discipline in my April & May 2011 Love in Action Newsletters.

Being a Father - Tip #8

Take care of yourself.

Focus on transforming yourself into the parent God wants you to be. As a parent, you have to feel good enough about yourself to be emotionally available to your child. Your window of tolerance needs to be able to handle any emotion their child brings to them. You need to be a secure attachment figure for your child. God calls us to be in a state of love for our children. You are the best and most likely agent of change for your child. To do this you must be in the process of resolving your own issues. I believe this calls for a heart change.

Read January 2011 Love in Action Newsletter “Being Transformed” for additional support.