Divine Order

How can that be? We’re still in the midst of the holidays. The Christmas season brings many things into our lives. Our worldly focus is shifted to the birth of Christ. We are able to see family members who live a distance away. We exchange gifts and focus on giving. Christmas also brings stress. Our schedules are disrupted. We eat less on the healthy side. Christmas festivities can easily cause over stimulation which leads to dys-regulation. Divine order, just like love is always there. We need to be mindful of ourselves and our children. We then need to slow down and become attuned to the Holy Spirit. When we breathe and slow down, we are able to seek God that is in us. We begin to realize that God is working through us. Connecting with God gives us the inner peace we need to allow our lives to unfold as has it planned for us. Confusion and challenges disappear. It is not too late to take advantage of my special Christmas gift to you. Learn more about this @ http://bit.ly/w2Z0ki.

Merry Christmas

For to us a child is born,
to us a son is given,
and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called
Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace

Isaiah 9:6

Merry Christmas

Good Stress Needs Regulation Too

Too many times we forget that good stress can cause dys-regulation too. Children as well as adults can get over simulated and have meltdowns. This kind of dys-regulation can be easily miss-understood as lack of appreciation or being self centered. I have heard parents respond by saying, “Well you had a good time and got what you wanted, isn’t that enough?” The problem is that it is usually more than enough emotional stimulation. Your child truly appreciates the party or fun time with his or her friends. Dys-regulation is dys-regulation regardless of good or bad stress. Dys-regulation causes confused and distorted thinking. The amygdala is aroused and oxytocin response is shut down. Result - TEMPER TANTRUM - for a seeming positive event. More than likely the parent is also over simulated and doesn’t realize that he or she is close to exceeding their window of tolerance. Try making your child’s world a little smaller and giving them Christmas excitement in smaller portions. Let the love and oxytocin flow through the holidays. Are you having difficulty as a parent slowing down and regulating? Get help learning to relax with one of my relaxation CDS @ http://bit.ly/oZ5uIO

Loving Words = Stress Busters

Loving Words = Stress Busters

Ephesians 4:29 “Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, . . “. What a powerful statement. Through your words you have the power to change situations. Remember, God “spoke” the world into existence. You can choose to provoke anger, discouragement, resentment, and shame. Breathe, relax, and think before you speak. Allow yourself time to regulate and connect with the love of God so you can chose your words wisely. Chose words of grace, peace, appreciation, and encouragement. If you take time to reflect and become regulated, you allow the Holy Spirit to work in you and the person you may be having a conflict with. Given time, the person who has upset you will have time to regulate. They will be open to connecting with the love you offer through your words. Need help in getting regulated and connecting with God? Take advantage of my free gift to you @ http://bit.ly/w2Z0ki

Loving Behaviors

Loving behaviors put into action a very powerful force. That force is God’s love that is in us. We have the ability to release this love when we stay connected to God. Love connects us to others and we then help them release the love of God that is within them. We appreciate and respect our family members and friends. We demonstrate forgiveness and grace. We see the good in ourselves and the good in others. The more love I give, the more my love grows because it is fueled by those around me. Conflict is replaced by a spirit of cooperation. Give more love this Christmas season and experience more love in your life. Love is always available. Take a few deep breathes and step into the love that is available.

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All My Needs II

Philippians 4:19 says “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” In the previous blog I discussed God is our supply, he is dependable and gives us hope. Further more, God gives to us not out of, but according to his riches in glory. This means that we don’t get the left overs. We sit down and experience the entire banquet. God is on always on time. God always does it the right way. His works are designed specifically for each one of us. During our journey we experience many wounds, failures, and scars. These are also taken care of through forgiveness and God’s healing power. John 10:10 says “.......... I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Don’t miss out this Christmas season. Freely accept what God has freely given. If you’re traveling alone along your journey, you’ll miss it. Connect with God and be blessed. Get my personal testimony “Spiritual Connection” @ http://bit.ly/oZ5uIO.

All I Need I

Many of the parents who came to the parent camp in Wisconsin in November were first time participants. This usually means that they are exhausted all of their resources. Nothing they have tried works consistently for any length of time. These parents feel Ike they’re on a treadmill that takes them through crisis after crisis and things don’t get better. This is not at all a judgment or criticism. This is a common story from parents who have adopted or take in foster children. They are exhausted mentally, emotionally, and physically. I am encouraged to say the Bryan Post’s Stress Model gives parents hope because it works. Even when using these strategies, parenting children with challenging behaviors can be exhausting. This is when we need to use our spiritual resources. Philippians 4:19 says “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”

God is the source of our supply. He gave us Jesus which is a gift that indwells in us. We do not have to depend on our own abilities or strength. All our needs are met through God’s endless supply. We can always depend on God. God pursued us. God is loyal and faithful even when we are not and don’t deserve it. The gift of Jesus gives us hope as our savior. We then look forward to the promise of mercy and grace that came from the resurrection and empty tomb. Be grateful this season for the gift of Jesus. Read about Jesus - the Gift of Relationship @ http://bit.ly/pBwc85. More to follow in next blog.